We need to clarify something…
When trying to “fix” a problem with your spouse, they are actually in a place of subconsciously not realizing that they are actually lacking love and trying to make you feel bad in order to make themselves feel good.
Gasp!
Read that again…and then ask yourself: Who has that kind of power?
You see, your spouse is trying to get you to continuously chase them in an effort to receive attention.
And when you give them that attention, you’re doing two main things:-
You’re reinforcing their bad actions so they are learning that they get attention from some disempowering action
You’re lying to yourself and not being true to who you are
So, why are you continuously trying to hold onto people or things that are weighing you down?
If you let them go, they can no longer hold you down…like cutting the sandbags off a hot air balloon…it can soar and rise.
HOWEVER, THIS IS NOT THE CASE WITH YOUR SPOUSE!!!
Why?
Because of love.
Love makes us do crazy things.
It keeps us holding on to hope.
But that’s easier said than done.
Now, down to business…
You can fix the problems you’re experiencing with your spouse even if you’re the only one trying, but you’re going to need help on how to do that…
Again, that’s easier said than done.