“Jack” was dancing around my office: pacing, sitting, jumping up, sitting down, pacing. . . .
Jack’s wife just revealed that she did not want to stay married. 22 years of marriage. Gone. Jack was in panic mode.
“What do I do?”, he repeatedly asked.
To be honest, Jack had already done a number of things I would have advised against. He was already behind the proverbial “eight ball.”
Jack’s determination was actually getting him into worse trouble. His efforts were in the wrong direction, confusing, and only leading to more anger.
So, Jack asked me where he should start.
I knew what Jack wanted. He wanted what we all want: a shortcut, an easy technique, a secret “ninja move” that would turn things around.
But as is true with most things in life, it is a bit more complicated than that.
“Jack,” I said, “take a deep breath. Sit back and listen.” Jack struggled with that, but he did it. Until I told him that something else had to change first: his mindset.
In fact, Jack and I discussed 5 ways his mindset had to shift. I share those 5 areas with you on this podcast. I tell you what needs to shift, and how it needs to shift.